Rooms That Changed Everything

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It’s been a minute since I wrote one of these. I started to provide a bunch of value (no catch) on what i’ve learnt, and what I wish I knew. I’m going to get straight to the point, no rambling. If you’re ambitious, you have a fire in your belly for more, want the cold hard tips but also some relatable experiences (sometimes big f*ck ups), i’m glad youre here, this is for you.

Comparison is one of my biggest challenges - and I know I’m not alone in that. Since moving from NZ to the Gold Coast, I’ve felt like a tiny fish in an ocean of whales and sharks.

This week alone I’ve been around multi-million-dollar business owners, high-performing clients, and alongside Alex, my Vera co-founder (more on this later), who’s an absolute gun in the industry. The success and knowledge of these people is unmatched.

It’s humbling and overwhelming - to think about how much more I could be doing. But that’s the point. Growth happens when you put yourself in uncomfortable rooms. It’s not about pretending to have it all figured out.

Key points: What success and comparison have in common.

• The rooms that make you feel smallest are the ones that expand you the most. They stretch your thinking, your standards, and your idea of what’s actually possible.

• Logic builds plans. Delusion builds momentum. These kinds of people have both. Remember, it’s only delusion till it works.

• Slow is smooth, smooth is fast. Speed in the wrong direction gets you nowhere faster. Slow down, get your bearings, then accelerate.

• You earned your seat. Go back 6 months, even 3, there will be cold, hard proof of progress. You belong here just as much as they do. Sit back down. 😂 

• Comparison zooms in on what you lack. Its not negative, use the areas of comparison and feelings of lack to show you where you need to invest more time. Taking responsibility is a powerful skill.

• You don’t have to be the biggest fish. Just a different one. Sometimes the smartest play is being the one who brings something different to the pond entirely - new perspective, taste, or depth.

• Everyone’s bluffing a little. Confidence and uncertainty can coexist. You can back yourself and still have uncertainty on what’s next.

A relatable experience I had with a brand and a person (now a client) who I’ve looked up to for years. He shared that he often feels imposter syndrome, worried he’s not doing enough. It shocked me because I’ve always looked at him in awe of what he’s achieved. But it was a good reminder: we’re all just figuring it out. Most of us feel like impostors at some point.

It’s what successful people have in common: they keep putting themselves in rooms that make them uncomfortable, and the result is growth and success.

If you’re the best in the room, you’re in the wrong room.

See you in there.

Alex